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10-29-2005, 12:41 AM
Be nice.

I got married two weeks ago. I find that I am awful about wearing the ring.

sister in law works for a jeweler...on occasion she will get in a ring that has to be repaired....ya know, one that has been cut off the finger because the wearer got it smashed under "________".

What do you married guys do with your rings??

Does it become a habit to take it off when going in to te shop and put it back on after, or do you just not wear it??

I haven't wore it in three days and am starting to feel guilty...I just forget to put it on, mostly after working for a couple hours.


3 Phase Lightbulb
10-29-2005, 01:05 AM
When I get home from work, I take my ring off, my watch, remove my wallet, change, empty my pockets, etc. When I leave the house, I put everything back on.


10-29-2005, 01:07 AM
Well it depends what is more important to you...Something that really only tells other people you are married or your ring finger being attached to your body....

Edit: Forgot to congratulate you...Sooooo congratualtions....

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10-29-2005, 01:11 AM
Jacob, I've been out of circulation for 26 years now and haven't worn my ring for most of it. All it took was a few photos courtisy of a doctor friend of mangeled or ring fingerless hands from ER shots, and she got real quiet, a little white and said ok. After a few years it no longer even fit on my finger. As long as she knows that you are not wearing it for safety reasons, and not to go trolling with the guys she should be all right with it. I found that leaving it home rather than taking it off at work was best as it reduced the chances of loosing it, which could cause another problem in itself. Congratulations and remember the 2 words that make for wedded bliss: " Yes Dear"

10-29-2005, 01:19 AM
What does it say when someone wears a ring?

Since it's a safety issue to wear a ring while operating machinery, you have a very good reason to reflect on the above question.

Personally, I'd wear it only when you want to answer the above question. The nice side effect is that it means more than it otherwise would. Why belittle a wedding band by wearing it because it's mere habit?

my $.02

10-29-2005, 01:21 AM
Hello, I wear my ring on special ocassions and during vacation ( except when I am in my shop). I figure that I know I am married and will tell if needed, but if you have two girls ages 3 yrs and one 18 months with you everywhere you go they get the picture. Plus the fact that my wife is a nurse in the operating room and she knows first hand the danger. It may be gruesome but if your new bride does not under stand show her pictures. I beleive she will understand........

10-29-2005, 01:32 AM
Been married for over thirty years now, think I need a medal for lasting that long, but haven't worn a ring for about twenty nine years or so. Used to drive a truck with a box on the back and loaded and unloaded from a side door, one day I jump down from the box and there's this god almighty awfull pain in me left arm and me feet are about a foot off the ground. The ring caught on the frame of the box and bloody near tore me finger of me hand. Yep, you guessed right, no more bloody ring. Tell, She Who Must Be Obeyed, NO RING,just remember, it's very painfull.

10-29-2005, 01:43 AM
Same here...I jumped out of a hayloft when I was a teenager. Had a ring on that the girlfriend gave me. Thing caught on a nail and nearly tore my finger off.
The way it got bent and twisted into my finger...they had a hell of a time to cut it out. This was done at home as it was a long ways to go to the hospital.
After a week or so they had to take me...I had a really bad infection and really got sick.
I've never worn a ring since and never will.
Been married for 32 years.

10-29-2005, 01:47 AM
I fried my ring finger putting batteries in a bulldozer the spanner I was using to tighten the battery terminal connected with earth a heated up my wedding ring so now I have a permanent ring scar on my finger, wouldn't have happened if I was right handed. While i'm here another thing left handers have to watch out for is the button on hand held electric drills that locks the power switch on, I dont know how many times I have nearly come to grief when the drill doesn't stop when you take your finger off the switch, one day I had to let go of the handle and wait for the drill to break the cord off before it stopped, now I try to use the drill right handed if possible or keep my finger away from the button.

10-29-2005, 01:56 AM
Married 34 years and don't ever wear a ring, never have. In fact, I don't have one. Rings and machinery are a bad combination. Take it off and leave it off. She will understand, I hope.

BTW, my condolences, er, congratulations.

10-29-2005, 02:48 AM
Been married for 51 years. never had the need to wear a ring. the army says fingers with rings on, tear off on the seats in the back of a jimmy. Especially if you have to debus,dontcha just love that word,in a hurry.
Dont worry about the ring. just love that gal.

John Stevenson
10-29-2005, 03:27 AM
When we got engaged 312 years ago we had this conversation before we married.
Gert asked what kind of ring I would like and for many of the reasons above, operating machinery, sticking hands behind 24 volt truck dashboards etc I said I wouldn't wear one so not to bother.
That went down fine and we only bought the one ring for Gert.

I asked if I could have a quick change toolpost instead but that didn't go down a bundle.

In fact I don't own any personal jewelery and never have since we have been married.
No cufflinks, tie pins or wristwatch. I managed for years with clocks around me not to bother, now my phone doubles up as a clock.

Sir John.

10-29-2005, 03:50 AM
Anyway real men don't wear jewellery....Only girly men do... http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif

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10-29-2005, 06:29 AM
I agree with all the others. I dont wear mine except to formal stuff,dinners, weddings,Good friends funerals(becouse there is at least one single gal there).Other than that,forget it.Wifey and I disscussed this long ago,and any wife worth there salt would understand.

Oh and start putting those jellybeans in a jar. http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//wink.gif

The tame Wolf !

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10-29-2005, 06:36 AM
I've been married 20 years and have worn my ring maybe two months. My wife keeps it with her jewelry. In the two months I wore it, it got pretty banged up.

10-29-2005, 08:12 AM
Take it off but be careful not to get your nosr too close to the work or you'll tear off the other ring.

10-29-2005, 08:35 AM
If I take mine off while working I put it in my coin purse (along with the odd safety pin, screw, valve cap and wire nut).

Old Joke
What three words do you NEVER want to hear while making love?

"Honey, I'm home!" :eek:

10-29-2005, 08:41 AM
Keep mine on unless I'm doing something that puts the finger at risk - climbing trip - major work on the truck - machining etc.

10-29-2005, 08:53 AM
I wore my ring till I had a close call. From then on I was always taking it on and off. Almost lost it once in the shop. Want'a see your wife get realy pissed? Loose your ring and she will probably never forget about it. Dare I say she might think that you did it on purpose? (I hope not, relationships should be stronger than that before the ring)

So, my ring now sits on the dresser, always. I dont want to loose it or a finger.

Honestly, the whole marage thing was a waist of time and money as far as I was concerned. I know that no one but her would put up with me anyway. Why would I want to stray and take a chance trying to find another?

As for finding another, that would be too much work anyway. All the retraining on both sides. Not worth it.

The wife didnt like the whole idea at first, but after a while she realized that the ring, marage, and all of that legal stuff was crap if I didnt plan to stick with her and be honest with her.

What is important to her is the fact that I will be honest to her and our relationship.

And so far I have not found a cute sexy redhead that could pull me away. Heck, she points them out to me now! (running joke between us) Besides, the wife is a fantastic cook! No man in his right mind would give that up. http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif


10-29-2005, 08:55 AM
Have been married for 34 years. Have never worn a ring. I know that i'm married and that is all that counts. My fingers are still permanatly attached.


J Tiers
10-29-2005, 09:39 AM

I used to take mine off for certain types of work, and it would usually stay off for a while, because I'd forget to put it back on.

More recently, it takes about 10 minutes and a lot of grease or dish soap to get it off the finger, so I leave it on. Since I'm not left-handed, it isn't so much of a problem.

Never have had a problem working in the shop , etc. Don't really remember ever catching it on anything. Maybe a rake handle or something

Now since its tighter, hasn't been a problem. That's good, because I doubt I could get it off the finger at the moment.

Cecil Walker
10-29-2005, 09:40 AM
Been married to the same woman for 36 years the 10th of this month, haven's worn a ring since a close encounter welding one night about 30 years ago. She helped finally get the ring off the damaged finger, totally understands, now the damaged ring resides in her jewelery box. She can explain in great detail to anyone who inquires why I don't wear any any rings.

10-29-2005, 09:57 AM
Guess I should update. She has no problem with me not wearing it, I just feel like a putz when I take off in the morning and go to work and dont put it on (I work in an office). She knows I'm forgetful...hell, she has a pool with her siblings as to how long I will go without losing it. (someone could have already won that, but I didn't tell...damn cats thought it was a shiney toy!)

I have always found it funny....people ask you why you marry someone. I always responded simply with "she puts up with me"...never anything more. They are always stunned...it's like everyone wants to hear you blab a bunch of horse****....love of my life, etc....She puts up with me....do you know how freaking difficult that is? :-D


Alistair Hosie
10-29-2005, 10:07 AM
John I am beginning to doubt everything you say tell the truth. Do you seriously think anyone here believes you work in your machine shop without wearing cuff links it's just not done old boy. http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gifAlistair p.s Snowman congrats on your marriage.Alistair

10-29-2005, 01:10 PM
Had to have my ring cut off due to an industrial accident. I guess I'm much like Cecil, been more than 30 years ago. My wife is a retired Industrial Health Nurse and has seen too many of those accidents where the finger was nearly taken off.
Next April we will be celebrating our 48th Anniversary. The ring is only a symbol, it's the relationship that counts.
My best to you now and for many years to come.

Alistair Hosie
10-29-2005, 01:24 PM
In reply to just married what do I do I would say definitely don't buy bunkbeds http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gifAlistair

10-29-2005, 01:44 PM
Just tell her that it'll make you disappear, start muttering "precious... must have the precious... my precious...", and eating live fish ("wriggling!")...

Oh, wait - that's a different ring... http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//wink.gif

10-29-2005, 02:25 PM
[quote] married.... now what do I do? [quote]

Become friendly with your right hand and subscribe to some porn sites?? http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//wink.gif

10-29-2005, 03:27 PM
I have been married 17 years, I wear my ring to work in a shop everyday, when I get to work I put it in my left front pocket, where it stays until I wash up at the end of the day, I put it on when I leave to go home, I have done this since the day we got married.

As a side note, loose clothing and long hair are probably just as, if not more dangeraous than a ring, my father wore his ring to work for more than 35 years in a machine shop, it saved his finger twice in all those years.

10-29-2005, 03:45 PM
There IS always exceptions to the rule,this does not in any way make it safe to do.

The tame Wolf !

Norman Atkinson
10-29-2005, 04:07 PM
In a bygone age, cheap books and thrillers used to contain the odd advert on the cover.
one was by a jeweller in London called Bravington's.

Their ad was " A ring of beauty is worth a lifetime of love"



10-29-2005, 04:55 PM
When I go in the shop, my ring goes in my watch pocket (if the pants have one) or in a drawer in my Gerstner toolchest. Or if I'm going outside to work on the car, I may stash it someplace in the house, if there's any chance it might fall out of my pocket while I'm crawling around under the car.
Aside from safety, I don't want to get the ring banged up.

10-29-2005, 05:02 PM
My SWMBO of 16 years has the conviction that rings and jewelery in general are a scam by the jewelers to show affection by spending money on them. She chose a 7200 sq ft green house in the back yard instead.

Greg C.

J Tiers
10-29-2005, 07:34 PM
<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by AZSORT:
She chose a 7200 sq ft green house in the back yard instead.
Greg C.</font>

So who has to live in it instead of teh main one when she's mad at you?

And why green?


Frank Ford
10-29-2005, 07:55 PM
You'll sort the ring thing out, and with a bit of friendly communication, it may not be all that difficult.

As an old married guy with a home shop, I can offer one piece of advice. When she has a little project for you to do, make sure she notices that you put down what you're working on to do hers first. Just say, "I can do my thing later."

I think I've derived two great benefits from that behavior. She never ever complains about me buying more tools. She may ask what it's for, but that's out of general interest rather than criticism. And, she respects my time out there in the shop as a matter of my personal passion rather than avoidance of her.

Of course, I may be all wrong, and she's simply glad I don't have that other, more destructive kind of "extracurricular interest". . .

Your Old Dog
10-29-2005, 09:10 PM
I put mine on 37 years ago walking down the isle and it has never been off.

I've refused x-rays because they wanted it removed. I don't jam it into dangerous places. I don't work as a mechanic or machinist.

(yes Norman, I once had to cover it up with tape and deny I had it http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif )

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10-29-2005, 10:06 PM
snowman, just read your last post here. I think that you answered your own question. http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif


Norman Atkinson
10-30-2005, 02:42 AM
Apart from my somewhat cheeky first posting- may I congratulate you. I am sure that each and everyone of us wishes you and your bride a long and happy time on the exciting and somewhat slippery slope of marriage. Think snow- eh?

If it were possible, you would see a somewhat damaged left hand as I type.
I got in the way of a wood planer/thicknesser and will never eat mince again! The real indignity was that the plastic surgeon had to plane another chunk off to mend it. Happily, my wedding ring was not on. Had it been, the odds would have been really serious. Even then, I had to return to doing Allais( bloody rotation) in my skiing for a couple of years. Think snow- I have a blood wagon badge, me old matey.

Hang your wedding ring up whilst in the workshop- and put a box around your wedding tackle!

Mind how you go.


10-30-2005, 04:30 AM
Been married almost 8 years after the wedding I never wear it accept on very special occasions maybe two times a year.

Safty first no wrist watch rings etc. years ago had a guy loose a finger getting out of a grain truck never would of thought a truck would do that ,but it happened . as for the machine shop it doesn't belong in there at all.

10-30-2005, 05:10 AM
Congratulations on your marriage Jacob. Respect, consideration and humour are a good part of the recipe for a good marriage ( so I`m told )
I have worn my wedding ring maybe half a dozen times in 30 years of marriage. I can`t abide rings on my fingers or watches on my wrist, they bother me.
Try a tattoo, "property of....." http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//smile.gif


10-30-2005, 07:56 PM
Was married about 18 months when I snagged my ring in the mill. Fortunately, the ring had been sized, had a weak spot, and ripped off without taking the finger with it. Just some cuts. Still have the piece of gold, but you really can't call it a 'ring' any more. I was stupid but lucky. Wow, wish it was the only time I ever said THAT!

10-30-2005, 08:56 PM
Father-in-law wore his for 42 years of running Warner-Swaseys 2A's. All 4 jaw chuck work on 300-400 lb. glass molds. A lifetime of dialing in. Wore through one side of his wedding ring, turned it around and wore through other side until it broke in in two. Anyone else match that!

10-30-2005, 11:11 PM
Boy Snowman, you're lucky, now you can quit your job and devote all your time to your hobby now that you have an alternate source of income... http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//biggrin.gif

You could wear it on a chain around your neck(tell her so it's close to your heart - with a little luck, you might be able to talk her into another machine. http://bbs.homeshopmachinist.net//wink.gif)


This Old Shed (http://thisoldshed.tripod.com)

10-31-2005, 08:54 AM
You could have a gold band tatooed on. I lost third wedding ring (in this marrige) a while back. We have been together so long now that it will be 'until death do us part" so I thought having a ring tatooed on would be a nice sign of committment. I call around and got a price. I found that some of the shops won't do hands because the skin and design ware off in time. I ran the idea past her and she had a FIT She bought me a new ring the next day. I have, after all these years, gotten where I can with fact that I will Never, Ever understand her.

10-31-2005, 09:05 AM
So she fianaly made an honest man out of you! Good luck and my God bless you. Are you planning on a bunch of little snowmen running around? Gary P. Hansen

Alistair Hosie
10-31-2005, 05:17 PM
If you want advice from a Scotsman who has been married 34 years with three great sons and a great wife.Never mind the ring that in the context of your life is small fry,always be honest and true to your wife love her above all others including your own parents and love her and your children beyond anyone else if you do that you are pretty well on the way to many happy years good luck young man seems to me your concern alone shows how committed you are.God Bless Alistair

11-01-2005, 12:52 AM
I wore mine until I got it snagged on the hand rail of the fire truck while it was rolling down the street. Broke my arm, hand, and about tore off the ring finger. I never put it back on.

Second marriage, wife bought me a ring although I told her about the previous incident. I was told if I loved her, I would wear one. I fixed by it gaining some weight and now it won't fit again. I have told her about the same thing that has been posted here already, I love her no matter what my finger has on it. she finally give in. No matter whether I was welding or doing anything with a machine or whatever, I always figured out a way of snagging the ring on something, they just don't mix well with working with the hands.

kap pullen
11-01-2005, 06:27 AM
My uncle was an engineer on a Liberty Ship in the second world war.

While going down below he cought his wedding ring on the railing. It nearly took his finger off.

He went to sick bay to get fixed up.
While in sick bay, the ship takes a torpedo
in the engine room.

He wore that ring proudly for the rest of his life. That ring had saved his life.

He never would watch a war movie. He said it brought back terrible memories that were better forgotten.

Uncle James, RIP.


11-01-2005, 08:44 AM
I still wear mine though I had a ring on my right hand that almost burnt my right hand ring finger of from a 12 volt battery short to ground with a wrench. I do not wear one on my right hand now. Wifes cousin lost his wedding ring finger when he hooped down from a piece of farm equipment.
Dad told me to wear mine. He lost his in a feild he was plowing when he lost his bill fold he had put it in for SAFE? keeping. I always wondered why he did not wear a ring. I guess I have been lucky for 30 years. I mknow when I mig aluminum my weeding ringis like an aluminum magenet.


11-01-2005, 09:46 AM
15 years of marriage, can't even figure out where the ring is by now. Wore it wedding week, then maybe a few times since then for formality, or when on long trips.

My wife keeps it in safe keeping, right along with the letter I wrote her asking that she marry me. She says this is the legal contract, and if I go astray, it will be her proof to hang me in a court of law.

Gary Helmick
11-01-2005, 10:08 AM
While serving in the navy aboard USS Cadmus AR14, a young resently married sailor was feeling manly, jumped up grab hold of "I" beam to do some chinups.
When he droped off the "I" beam, we all here a tinkle and looked down and there laid a wedding ring and a finger.
Only wore mine for the first year of marriage and then remembered that scene.
Been married only once and for 39yrs, it doesn't take a ring to make a marriage.
Gary Helmick

Gary Helmick
11-01-2005, 10:09 AM
<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Gary Helmick:
While serving in the navy aboard USS Cadmus AR14, a young resently married sailor was feeling manly, jumped up grab hold of "I" beam to do some chinups.
When he droped off the "I" beam, we all heard a tinkle and looked down and there laid a wedding ring and a finger.
Only wore mine for the first year of marriage and then remembered that scene.
Been married only once and for 39yrs, it doesn't take a ring to make a marriage.
Gary Helmick</font>

George Hodge
11-02-2005, 07:56 PM
About ready to hit #49yrs.Been wearing my ring all of that time,once covered by tape cause they couldn't get it off.What bothers the most is weld spatter,if I forget to put those gloves on !It or the finger will have to be cut off now,got arthuritus in some of the other fingers,so far not in that one.
Read in a Doctor's office,that 1/4th.of a Viagra pill will help keep your shoes neat.

Steve Stube
11-02-2005, 11:33 PM
This might be of interest, or not!

11-03-2005, 12:03 AM
"metal blade cannot cut finger"

Sorta like cast cutters...

it was interesting how when he cut mine off, i had a nice little cut all the way down the length of where he cut the cast. i must have had a defective blade. he denied it.

i was like, wtf man...i've had a cast over it for 4 weeks, HOW DID I CUT MY LEG??


11-03-2005, 07:20 AM
Married and never worn a ring. Never will. The only adornment I wear is a watch. It has a practical purpose of telling time. Billy Bob told me that people who wear jewelry have a condition called the 'Christmas Tree Syndrome'.

11-03-2005, 10:55 AM
In a drawer.