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    This'll likely be closed but I just want to say something real quick before I try to get some sleep.

    I have a friend. We go way back... through the middle grades and then onto high-school... and we went our separate ways but kept in touch. Facebook allowed us to keep up on the latest bullsh|t and chat on occasion.

    Through it all she has been something of an inspiration to me, I figured if I could do half as well as her I'd be doing pretty good. And I was right... up to tonight.

    Tonight it all came apart on her. She's in the hospital now... papers have been signed and eventually they'll figure out what's happening in there.

    Pretty scary to see someone come apart like that... on the other hand it's also pretty awesome that the internet and text-messaging and portable cellphones allowed us to keep in touch and work through this right up until the moment they checked her in.


    Going to be a long night. I'll be up for awhile pondering this. Little bit shaken up, not easy watching a friend fall apart like this...

    Normally I'd have something witty to say in closing but I got nothing this time, I'm that shaken up by this.
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  • #2
    Friendship means thick and thin, right?

    Doesn't end here ...

    There is the prospect that matters will right themselves and she will
    return to her former/future self.

    .

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    • #3
      I have no doubt she will recover from this.

      Just watching her come apart... that's the scary part. Given me alot to think about as I go forward with my business and with my family and all that.
      This product has been determined by the state of California to cause permanent irreversible death. This statement may or may not be recognized as valid by all states.
      Heirs of an old war/that's what we've become Inheriting troubles I'm mentally numb
      Plastic Operators Dot Com

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      • #4
        Come apart....going on in there.....hospital.....sounds like a mental health issue.

        Someone dear to me suffers similarly. This is not something she would choose for herself, to say the least. Can't say that she is weak- she possesses a lot of strength if the truth be told. Sometimes life hands us more than we can handle.

        That being said, it amazes me how wonderful and complex is the human brain. It is a wonder that we all don't "come apart" now and then. Sounds to me like your friend needs a friend now more than ever. Been through the hospitalization routine.

        I wish the best for you and your friend, and will offer up prayers as well.

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        • #5
          She sounds intelligent - that can be a problem, on the flip side ignorance may be bliss --- but only for awhile.

          Good luck to you and your buddy, it means the world to her that your still keeping in touch, you may need to a little more due to her time frame being distorted...

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          • #6
            Originally posted by toolmaker76
            Come apart....going on in there.....hospital.....sounds like a mental health issue.
            Yep.

            Sadly our system treats the symptoms with pills rather than trying to solve the underlying "programming faults" if you will.

            It's better to take a couple Xanax and go back to your routine... than it is to face the REAL problem and fix the REAL problem.


            When you give 120% day in day out for 15 years while those around you give less than 33%, coupled with the fact that you take little time to actually cut lose and have FUN with people.... it can set one off. Of course that drive to give 120% every god-damn day is a symptom too...
            This product has been determined by the state of California to cause permanent irreversible death. This statement may or may not be recognized as valid by all states.
            Heirs of an old war/that's what we've become Inheriting troubles I'm mentally numb
            Plastic Operators Dot Com

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            • #7
              I can tell you from the experience of someone very close to me that recovery is quite possible. It doesn't happen fast, but it can happen good. My loved one is now more stable, engaging and loving than ever before. I'd call it a 110% recovery.

              Remain friends, remain faithful that things will work out. Most times, people do get better.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Liger Zero
                Yep.

                Sadly our system treats the symptoms with pills rather than trying to solve the underlying "programming faults" if you will.

                It's better to take a couple Xanax and go back to your routine... than it is to face the REAL problem and fix the REAL problem.
                Sometime you have to jump start a car to get it running before you can start trouble shooting.

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                • #9
                  Few of us are on the outside, what we are on the inside.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Liger Zero
                    Of course that drive to give 120% every god-damn day is a symptom too...


                    You said it, part of my new routine along with my extreme diet is learning how to relax and not feeling guilty about it...

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Liger Zero
                      This'll likely be closed but I just want to say something real quick before I try to get some sleep.

                      I have a friend. We go way back... through the middle grades and then onto high-school... and we went our separate ways but kept in touch. Facebook allowed us to keep up on the latest bullsh|t and chat on occasion.

                      Through it all she has been something of an inspiration to me, I figured if I could do half as well as her I'd be doing pretty good. And I was right... up to tonight.

                      Tonight it all came apart on her. She's in the hospital now... papers have been signed and eventually they'll figure out what's happening in there.

                      Pretty scary to see someone come apart like that... on the other hand it's also pretty awesome that the internet and text-messaging and portable cellphones allowed us to keep in touch and work through this right up until the moment they checked her in.


                      Going to be a long night. I'll be up for awhile pondering this. Little bit shaken up, not easy watching a friend fall apart like this...

                      Normally I'd have something witty to say in closing but I got nothing this time, I'm that shaken up by this.
                      Best of luck for your friend's recovery.

                      Mental illiness..and it is an illiness..can happen to anyone...all trees will break when bent far enough.

                      Mods..if you would I would appreciate you leaving this discussion active...this discussion will help at least one person...and I suspect many more.

                      Again good luck with your friend's recovery.

                      TMT

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Ken_Shea
                        Few of us are on the outside, what we are on the inside.
                        Very wise words.

                        TMT

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                        • #13
                          FWIW...in the past I have sometimes found it hard to justify the time and monetary investment I have in my shops..that capital could be working for me elsewhere. My justification has been for the stress relief working in the shop brings me. When viewed in that light, the investment has been a wise one.

                          TMT

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Too_Many_Tools
                            FWIW...in the past I have sometimes found it hard to justify the time and monetary investment I have in my shops..that capital could be working for me elsewhere. My justification has been for the stress relief working in the shop brings me. When viewed in that light, the investment has been a wise one.

                            TMT
                            Amen to that. Its interesting that I said similar things to my stepdaughter less than a week ago. She's an actor and understands this better than most.

                            A friend and fellow vet who also has PTSD and was the HR manger at a sizable local bottling company read the riot act to his plant manager a couple of weeks ago. Needless to say he is the former HR manager and the VA has added some serious meds to his schedule. So far I've been able to avoid the meds (knock on wood) as I've seen outrageous side effects. However, without the ability to physically work off some of the "stuff" hard telling where, what , or if I'd be doing anything productive.

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                            • #15
                              We should all be thankful for everyday we have health mental and physical.

                              I have a friend who worked for a local bolt company.Guy was sharp as a tack and really knew his business.One day he had a stroke and in a matter of minutes all that sharp intellect and ability went away.
                              He has since recovered from the stroke,but he has had a hard time dealing with the fact that everything which used to be easy is now very difficult
                              I just need one more tool,just one!

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