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    Got a call today that my dad is in the hospital and now is not expected to make the night. It's not a shock or a tragedy- he's 89 and has been close to death a few times. At this point I'm sure he's excited to be seeing mom again- she's been gone for about 60 years now. I'm almost excited for him, though sad to see him go. We've talked about all this, but it's still jarring to be at this point- many of you have been there and know what it's like. I'm not looking for sympathy, just appreciating the connections I have with others such as the members here.

    My sisters are going to need support. My myriad projects can wait. I'll have to work it out with my day job- the usual things.
    I seldom do anything within the scope of logical reason and calculated cost/benefit, etc- I'm following my passion-

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    I'm sorry to hear that Darryl. I'm sure he's had a full life and he's obviously done well by you, so I'm sure he has plenty to be proud of. It's not what you take with you, it's what you leave behind.

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    • #3
      Sorry to here about your Dad. I am one of those you mentioned, so know what you are going through and facing.
      In my case my mom passed a few years after my dad. I then realized I was the senior member of out family and that is a bit of a shock in itself.
      I lost an old friend about a week ago whom I will also miss. I used to have lunch with him quit often.
      He spent his life as a machinist so I have learned a lot from him and will think of him often while working in my shop.
      Larry - west coast of Canada

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      • #4
        My Father died in 2012 - he was 96. I don't think one ever gets over losing someone - they just learn to live with it.

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        • #5
          I'm sorry Darryl. Losing parents is tough. But let's hope they will be together again.
          Mike
          WI/IL border, USA

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          • #6
            My father died (in his sleep) on Veteran's Day 1983, at the age of only 63. He had heart disease but his passing came suddenly and unexpectedly. My mother also died in her sleep in January of 1996, at the age of 74. She also had heart problems, aggravated by smoking, but again it happened without warning. It may be easier on us to have it happen at the end of a long illness, with time to reminisce and say goodbye, but it's harder on the loved one to suffer. In any case, it's never easy, and I wish you strength during this difficult time.
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            Paul , P S Technology, Inc. and MrTibbs
            USA Maryland 21030

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            • #7
              Sorry to hear that Darryl. My wife and I have both lost our parents--we're now the elders of the family. Losing a parent is not an easy thing to do but it's part of the cycle of life. Cherish your memories.

              And hey, if you ever get down this way let me know you're coming and I'll buy you a coffee...
              Keith
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              Just one project too many--that's what finally got him...

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              • #8
                Yes I hope they will be together again.

                I've lost friends and family members, and I suppose you don't really get over it. I tend to remember them for whatever reasons I was fond of them, and I try to forget any reasons why I may have been less than happy with them. I like a wake where you celebrate a persons life rather than mourn their death, and I hope my siblings will take this tack.

                Dad has had a full life- ironically just a few weeks ago he was thinking about getting married again- some chick he met at his extended care home. She was just a young thing, 80 something

                Thanks for the support, everyone. And Keith, I know you're just an hour down the road from me- one day I'll take you up on that coffee.
                Last edited by darryl; 02-23-2015, 01:23 AM.
                I seldom do anything within the scope of logical reason and calculated cost/benefit, etc- I'm following my passion-

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                • #9
                  Losing someone close like that is not easy. Try to think of the good times. Know that he will finally be at rest.

                  Sounds like it has been a relatively quick decline. Far better than watching them waste away over a decade or so. RIP Dad.
                  Design to 0.0001", measure to 1/32", cut with an axe, grind to fit

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                  • #10
                    Hi Darryl; my heart goes out to you and family. My mother, 93, has already made her peace with all. Including funeral and cremation. My MIL has not. She is dithering about everything so we are here in Victoria trying to sort things out. She has turned alien, especially when it come time to help with the bills. I can understand because she has had so many years of independence but boy is it hard to get her to move on stuff that we have to do when we sell the house. Good luck with you guys, wayne.

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                    • #11
                      I'm so sorry to read of your dad, you sounded close, always harder to deal with, I found my dad dead in the bathroom when I was 16, I dont think you ever get over it, the only consolation is the fact we are all closer to leaving than arriving as it were, I don't like the idea of my family mourning me, that disturbs me the most, I wish I could say they won't, but I can't, I don't think any parent wants to inflict sadness on their kids, after all we are all guaranteed to be going.
                      I hope you come through it ok, sorry
                      Mark

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                      • #12
                        I have also been through this, July 17 of 2013.

                        As others have said, it's painful but the way things are supposed to work. You never want to outlive your children.

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                        • #13
                          I'm sorry to hear about your dad, Darryl. It must be very difficult for you to lose him. My dad is 86 and while thankfully he's still healthy, I know none of us gets out of here alive and that all of our clocks are ticking. Sooner or later I'll be facing what you are now facing so I can emphasize what you have been going through up to this point. God bless you and your dad and I pray He give you strength and comfort in the coming difficult days.

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                          • #14
                            Darryl---Sorry to hear this. I hope your dad goes to a better place. It is always hard to lose a loved parent.---Brian
                            Brian Rupnow

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Cuttings View Post
                              I then realized I was the senior member of out family and that is a bit of a shock in itself.
                              I well remember the same feeling. Wait, what, I can't be the oldest member of my direct family, somebody must be miscalculating something, I was still a kid a few years, er, well, a few decades, ago?

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