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  • OT-13 thimgs mentally strong people don't do!

    Heard this on the radio then looked it up, I bet many of us fit many of these. Let me know what you think.


    Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.
    1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

    Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

    2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

    They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

    3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

    Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

    4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

    You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

    5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
    Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

    6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

    They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

    7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

    Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

    8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

    They accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

    9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

    Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

    10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

    They don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

    11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

    Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

    12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

    They don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

    13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

    Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.
    "Let me recommend the best medicine in the
    world: a long journey, at a mild season, through a pleasant
    country, in easy stages."
    ~ James Madison

  • #2
    Sounds like the sort of drivle you get from management gurus - the sort of obnoxious pontificating blogs Linkedin keeps pointing me too.

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    • #3
      The basic premises are spot on as far as I am concerned. If a person is not as successful as they would like to be then they should go down the list and notice which ones they are not adhering to.

      13. Is my hardest one to go by. I want things to happen fast. I will work for them but I do get impatient. Please God grant me patience but do it right now!
      How to become a millionaire: Start out with 10 million and take up machining as a hobby!

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      • #4
        It's a partial list, and doesn't include some of the most important things......

        Baz is looking at it somewhat rightly..... and shows mental strength......

        I always am amused by these things..... "mentally strong"..... Who can argue against THAT? It's OBVIOUSLY important, and if you don't fall into line and march behind those who stated the "rules", you must NOT be mentally strong..... you WEAKLING....

        Be our obedient followers and be mentally strong without having to think!
        1601

        Keep eye on ball.
        Hashim Khan

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        • #5
          I fail almost half of those. But their "reason" for why you shouldn't isn't the same for me on all of them.

          I go against the grain, its more exciting.
          Andy

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          • #6
            Clearly written by an INTJ...

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Baz View Post
              Sounds like the sort of drivle you get from management gurus - the sort of obnoxious pontificating blogs Linkedin keeps pointing me too.
              yeah these things are kind of motherhood lists.....but that doesn't mean they're not good reminders. The listed things are all good aspects of attitude we'd do better to have than not - if one can't see a few items on the list you'd do well to remind yourself of, read it again.
              .

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              • #8
                BIG fail for me on #4, #7, #9.

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                • #9
                  Most likely written to be used to beat college kids into submission, if they do not agree with all those points than the professors fail them.
                  If you followed all of them then you would be easily lead.
                  Dan.

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                  • #10
                    I think this list is pretty good!

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                    • #11
                      Can't say I disagree with any of that. I notice that the short expansion following each of them points to a bit of a balance. To maintain all 13 in a balanced way, all the time, would take a "13th order" meditative guru to pull it off. So I would say a mentally strong person will try to strive for those things when they can. To actually be a person who does all that as a matter of course would be a bit of a superhero.
                      I would add that a guy could claim one or a few of those facets to live by and miss the rest and be a typical jerk or CEO or the like, so I would add #14 to be that a mentally strong person strives to master the previous 13 at all times, then adds another 13 to work on, etc.
                      So maybe it's as it always was and it could simply be #1. A mentally strong person never thinks he's quite got it all figured out.

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                      • #12
                        I much prefer the lists of "strive for" over the lists of "avoid."

                        Also, what does the term "mentally strong" actually mean? Are we talking "mental fatigue strength" or "mental yield strength" or "breaking point?" Can we compensate for a lack of mental strength by increasing our mental cross-section?

                        I've only read two psychology books, but neither one mentioned "mental strength."

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Black Forest View Post
                          The basic premises are spot on as far as I am concerned. If a person is not as successful as they would like to be then they should go down the list and notice which ones they are not adhering to.

                          13. Is my hardest one to go by. I want things to happen fast. I will work for them but I do get impatient. Please God grant me patience but do it right now!
                          You're right I'm impatient too. I honestly tried to learn it but gave up. My problem is now there are many things I have to hire help to do & I get so POed at the way or lack of how they work, no work ethics at all. I'm not had to work for or demanding. I just want it done right, on time & the way I said, what's so hard about that. I want it done like I would do it, the right way, on time & I always give a little extra. The list fit me wellso I just past it on, if you like it don't readit, or agree with it. But this is what I tried to instill in my sons.
                          "Let me recommend the best medicine in the
                          world: a long journey, at a mild season, through a pleasant
                          country, in easy stages."
                          ~ James Madison

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Baz View Post
                            Sounds like the sort of drivle you get from management gurus - the sort of obnoxious pontificating blogs Linkedin keeps pointing me too.
                            Must've hit a nerve. Sounds spot on to me.

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                            • #15
                              It does sound pretty solid in allot of ways...

                              on any given day Im pretty good with most things mentioned, but #3 is a mixed bag for me - I do not like change - with allot of things I get in a rut and stay there, find stability, I like to be the one to make the decision to climb out of said rut and mix things up... or jump right into another rut,

                              Even the Gurls at Subway know this, I just made the switch from turkey to tuna, don't really know what set it off but I think iv been on turkey for about a year and a half,,, 2 or 3 weeks ago it was tuna out of the blue, then they go "oh boy here we go --- out of one rut and into another, Jen --- cut back on the turkey and order extra tuna for at least the next year"... lol

                              so yes 3 is my weak point with what's mentioned and 4 and 5 depending,,,

                              I got #10 #11 and #12 down pat although with #11 I do not know if they would still be calling it "good" with the level in which I take it,
                              people are an interruption to me for the most part, I enjoy company once in awhile then enough is enough - generally takes too much energy to hang around others and interrupts my thought patterns and I seem to value them allot more than others to the point of having to break away, I typically enjoy hanging around my Dog much more, that's when we can tolerate each other,,, very independent pooch that way too, off in her own little world most of the time and really seems to value her own space. is what it is... and is very good.

                              That being said #9 does not even enter the equation for me, I almost don't even understand the example, I really do not ever even "go there" just by nature...

                              7 is a wild card - generally smooth sailing but I can and have gotten "derailed" and thrown back into time, seems just a matter of time and things correct themselves again, I do believe that's somewhat healthy to have past perspective even if you go heavy into it and dwell awhile, I think it can not only be the catalyst for change but also great learning, as long as you eventually pull out within reason.

                              if you don't allow for it at all you are depriving a normal process and risk the chance of becoming a robot...


                              all that being said, I take nothing for granted and realize this is all in the luxury of "smooth sailing" and at any given day could be disrupted by forces well out of my control and change many of views just mentioned either both temporarily or permanently - I am after all a realist... all "rules" are subject to change...

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